Comments on: Yoga Mama

By: Ruth

Ruth — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 21:28:47 +0000

oooh yeah, tricky! Personally I would wait a little longer until I felt wholeheartedly that this is the right time, esp. if still nursing. Would you feel like you could commit 100 percent to the course if you didn’t feel 100% about leaving? Or would it be the case at any time (like me), lol. The first time I left mine, and it was out of necessity actually when I had a miscarriage scare a few mnths ago for 3 or 4 day/nights the youngest was 2 and a bit. She coped just fine and I wasn’t sure she would.
Wish there was pre natal yoga here! As 3rd time round I’m actually a little fearful of the labour pain like never before!
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By: The Right Time | ...infinitely learning...

The Right Time | ...infinitely learning... — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 02:29:48 +0000

[...] I’ve been thinking about this a lot since then–how to know the right time for your children: when to start solids, leave them for the first time, night wean, let go of the bike….or leave them for five nights for a yoga training. [...]

By: TheOrganicSister

TheOrganicSister — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 20:21:46 +0000

Such a tough spot to be in. I can totally see where you are coming from and the huge dilemma it brings. I, too, would really like to start contributing so that I can relieve some of the stress from Justin but doing so in a way that keeps me available and engaged with Zeb is difficult, even at his age (10).

The first time I left Zeb was when he was three years old and it was for about a week. He was a pretty independent kid, excited to be spending a week with Gma but it was still tough on him and I wouldn’t do the same thing now with the perspective I now have.

I’ve personally always found that when things are “meant to be”, everything clicks without any stress, worry or fear. It falls into place and I know it’s right. When things don’t click, when there is a serious level of uncertainty on anyone’s part, it’s always been for good reason.

:hugs: to you as you find the right answer for both you and him.

~Tara
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By: gardenmama

gardenmama — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 18:58:38 +0000

I enjoyed reading your sensitive and caring post about your family and how you are being mindful of your little one. I also enjoyed reading everyone’s thoughts on this. I feel like this time with our littles at this age goes by so very quickly and as much time and energy that can be poured forth to them is worth it for both them and us as mamas. I know you feel the same, either way you will already know it in your heart what the right timing is for your family. Blessings to you kind mama : )

By: kate

kate — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 17:26:20 +0000

hmmm… whenever I have a decision like this, I find myself on a long walk, trying to “zoom out” and see a clear vision of the big picture. If this yoga training feels really important right now, listen to that voice– but if the five nights away feels too hard or will end up distracting (and thereby detracting) from the experience, there is something to be said for focusing on what you can already do (birth photography/book work, etc.) and trusting that there will be a space and time for this in the future. What about a compromise? Could the family travel with you for some nursing/cuddle time at night, even for two or three of those nights? At the end of the day, know that five nights– whatever you choose– is not going to take away from the lifetime of love and support you give your babes on a daily basis. I haven’t had the occasion to leave Elizabeth yet, and I didn’t leave Max until he was three, but with Noah, my first, I went away for two nights when he was about 20 months old. And at almost 11 now, I can tell you, that separation– while tough at the time– is not even a blip on our relationship screen. If it were me, I think I’d look into a way to include my family on part of the trip, so as to not have to go such a long stretch….if only for your own ability to relax and enjoy the experience.
Trust in your instincts, mama, because whatever they are telling you, I’m betting the right answer for you and the fam.
warmly,
kate

By: flowers

flowers — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 16:15:05 +0000

Thanks Carrie, I really appreciate your perspective.

By: Carrie

Carrie — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 15:59:26 +0000

Hi Hillary

I’ll share my experience in case its useful :) I started my yoga training last year when J had just turned 2yrs. It consisted of sundays and a residential weekend, I thought this would be ok but when the time came around I knew we were not ready. I was lucky that the retreat was close enough that I could travel home at night, the others thought I was crazy especially as some had babies younger than mine!

I know how you feel on wishing to contribute financially, remember though how much abundance you bring into the lives of your children and family by being with them, its worth more than gold!

Love to you, I know its a hard decision to make x

By: flowers

flowers — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 15:56:53 +0000

Thanks Erin.

I’m not so much thinking I would be making big $$$ teaching yoga, but more a step in a direction. I’m starting to offer birth photography and I think together hand in hand as well as building a tribe. I’m piecing together my book/birth preparation for the mindful mama and it all sort of flows together, kwim?

I really appreciate your thoughts and in fact I very much remember you going away for that night!

We’ve been thinking about it a lot and there is a possibility that the whole crew would come out and we could spend the nights together.

We’ll see. I’m just excited to have everything on the table and sorting through the possibilities and the feelings. I know we’ll make the best decision, and this is part of the journey. Thanks for processing this with me :-)

By: exhale. return to center.

exhale. return to center. — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 14:47:42 +0000

ps…

link doesn’t seem to want to work???

it’s in the archives under april 08 if you are interested. http://eringoodman.blogspot.com

i think i shared it with you last year when i wrote it though.

love to you my friend…

~e
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By: exhale. return to center.

exhale. return to center. — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 14:43:07 +0000

hil…

just a few more thoughts and then i need to ‘unplug’ and get ready for camp (woo-hoo!!)…

i have found that the money i make teaching yoga is often “break even” money. especially when you add up all i’ve spent on certifications and trainings.

so i personally have stopped doing trainings/certifications in hopes of making income (right now…not to say it is not possible but it is a lot to juggle with two little ones) and i am focusing on enrichment/learning activities that feed my soul and income-generating opportunities that integrate easily into our family life (right now for me that is writing ).

maybe there is something in-between…a day workshop…a retreat that is only one overnight…or closer to home….that would meet your needs for time and space and personal growth…without straining the nursing relationship that you have with koala…which seems to be working very well for all of you.

i left quinn overnight last year just before his second birthday. he was still nursing several times a day (and continued to do so until this spring when he weaned just before his third birthday) and it was a very positive experience for all of us. (i wrote about it on my old blog: http://eringoodman.blogspot.com/2008/04/sunday-april-27-2008-602-am.html)

much love to you my friend. i know you will find a path that is just perfect for all of you…

~e
.-= exhale. return to center.´s last blog ..breathing space :: the wonder years =-.