Now let it go.
I used to be an attachment parenting, naturally minded mama who homebirthed, used cloth diapers and swore my kid would never use a pacifier (or watch tv-ha!).
Now maybe I still do all those things. (Maybe, maybe not?–doesn’t really matter.) But what I’ve learned on my journey into this wild world of parenting is that self-identifying with certain labels and movements can at first be inspiring in a “wow-a guide to live by!” sort of way, but in reality they limit our potential of finding our fantastic flow.
I’ve had so many discussions with friends who were staunch APers, but guiltily whisper (we cried it out, used a pacifier, signed his soul to the devil etc.) delving into the world of the all too familiar self-guilt that riddles every parent’s heart.
I say-so what. Sure you would’ve liked a natural birth, a baby who slept so soundly you could dreamily relay what a fantastic night’s sleep you got snuggled up to them, or a child who didn’t have acid-reflux or car sickness in which a pacifier helped soothe those rough times. But that wasn’t what happened and we found our own way (even if we had to break some of the “rules”).
The more we free ourselves up from the very constraints we place ourselves in– the easier it is to find a unique flow that works for our family. I think every family could write a book. It would be called “The Jones’ Guide to a Happy, Healthy Family” or maybe “The Guilmett-Clancy Guide to Family Living”.
We all take the little pieces of wisdom we find and work them into our lives and most of the time applying them into our family actually changes the original game plan. Why? Because there are no parents who are exactly like you and no children who are just like your children.
Throw it all together and you get a one-of-a-kind, mixed-up, bejazzled, completely fantastic and uniquely amazing family. And your family deserves a style all of its own.
Free yourself: give up parenting dogma.