Tonight as I was making dinner Stone kept me company in the kitchen holding Ninu. He brought up our wedding day and as we each shared our favorite moments the memories cascaded out one after another. It felt really good.
It brought me back to an entirely different place: one where our relationship was front and center and we had the freedom to lounge in the goodness of Us.
A few weeks ago, as Stone was stood across the room bouncing a fussy Ninu and an endless sea of toys and two busy boys stood between us he joked, “So, does this mean less sex?”
We laughed, but it’s not really funny. We know a key to staying together is making a conscious effort to grow our relationship in healthy ways. It will never be like those early days where a rainy afternoon meant a leisurely afternoon of napping and indulgence (or at least for quite a few years), but we can find new ways to celebrate our partnership.
Tonight as we re-lived our wedding day (it was so amazing!) I realized that simply remembering the how and why we choose to walk this life together is profound. In a time where there is little time for “us” it helps to remember and those good feelings naturally lead us into asking how we can make it better; how we can make sure our relationship stays strong and how we can keep room for Us in a big and busy family.
(And to illustrate my point I will tell you that I amongst the thousand of photos I have on my computer there wasn’t one of just the two of us!)