Comments on: How Do You Do It?

By: Nicki

Nicki — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 19:59:11 +0000

Thanks, LJ! .-= Nicki´s last blog ..Sports Fanatic =-.

By: L.J.

L.J. — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 02:08:30 +0000

A great reminder to all of us! Thank you! .-= L.J.´s last blog ..Growing Together =-.

By: Nicki

Nicki — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 00:42:01 +0000

You are so right. I have been a single mom for 14 years. You do what you have to – no less – to make it all work.
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By: Casey

Casey — Sun, 11 Jul 2010 22:55:57 +0000

I’m also a mom of 6 and since I became a single mother this comment has really started to bother me. “I don’t know how you do it.” “You must have the patience of a saint.” etc.

I do what I have to do when I have to do it. That’s really all there is to it. I also firmly believe that 1 or 100 children somehow manage to take up all of your time.

As far as patience go? All of the kids caught on pretty quick to stay out from under mom’s feet until she’s had morning coffee.

By: Nicki

Nicki — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 15:57:39 +0000

Kate – thanks! I had never really thought of it that way. I just really never understood why people would want to know how I do things because I am not the “perfect” parent. Things get done to benefit the kids. Well, now the kids are mostly adults, I do more for me.
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By: Kate

Kate — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 13:49:33 +0000

Nicki, I enjoyed reading this so much that I read it twice! I didn’t comment right away, however, because I’m one that would probably ask “How do you do it?” or something else like that.

I have a friend who is a mother of 4. She’s pregnant with her 5th and definitely wants 6. I’m in awe of her and often ask her mothering questions that probably sound a lot like “how do you do it?” And this question comes from place of respect. She inspires me. In my eyes she seems to have mastered something that sometimes overwhelms me.

I’ve had a few people ask me the same question about other things that I do, “Kate, HOW do you DO this?” And I always take it as a compliment because in their eyes I’ve mastered something that overwhelms them.

Whether mastery is truly involved or not, I do think that many times the question “How do you do it?” comes from a place where others are recognizing our gifts and are inspired.

When I ask or am asked this question to me it really means “I think you’re doing a great job! I’m inspired! Share with me some of your magic!”

Thank you, Nicki, for sharing some of your magic. :)
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By: Nicki

Nicki — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 11:18:22 +0000

Amber – trust your instincts. I use to let the twins – one boy, one girl – run around the back yard naked. I would put the potty chair out there with them. They eventually decided when they were ready.
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By: Amber

Amber — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 04:13:22 +0000

I am at the shiny hardwood floor stage. It is highly discouraging, to say the least. Perhaps I should listen to what my instincts, and the puddles, are telling me. .-= Amber´s last blog ..Mr Salesguy =-.

By: Nicki

Nicki — Mon, 05 Jul 2010 18:37:10 +0000

Christine – I am pretty certain that what you are doing is “your best” at that given point in time. We just seldom see that until later. You know, hindsight and all.
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By: Nicki

Nicki — Mon, 05 Jul 2010 18:30:46 +0000

I agree, Tracy. Yet, so many mothers do not trust their instincts about their children. Thanks for reading. .-= Nicki´s last blog ..Look for Me at Infinite Learners =-.