Friends are Friends for a Reason
They show up when you need them and if it gets to the point where you are such a mess that you post your meltdown on your blog they show up with big hugs, well wishes and an extra compassionate heart. The extra love is almost worth the stress and drama.
Priorities Take Precedent
In this case I am referring the the absolute realization that massages, family time, quality food, and sleep are just as important as paper deadlines and long lists of “have-to’s”. Love and play are serious parts of life that need to be kept on the top of your priority list.
The More You Give the More You Get
This past month taking an hour to sit and play trains, read books or just look out the window didn’t seem all that important. After all, there is so much to do. Time and again I come back to the realization that the more time I give to the kids the more time they give me. Cutting down on quality time with the kids doesn’t get us anywhere.
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There are definitely way more than three, but I thought I’d start simple and slow. Thanks for taking the ride with me everyone–all your comments and well wishes are much appreciated.
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I couldn’t have expressed it better myself! Sometimes it can suck that it takes a meltdown to learn a lesson.
.-= Sarah @ OneStarryNight´s last blog ..Wordless Wednesday: In My Kitchen =-.
Right ON!
And it’s ok to have meltdowns. Especially when we learn from them! :)
.-= Shawna Cevraini´s last blog ..Earth Hour 2010 =-.
I feel that as thoughtfully and consciously we parent, the closer we are to our children and family, well…the closer we are to our children and family–for better or worse. When critical mass happens, you take care of yourself. And, let that be the example for the children. Sometimes you need to walk in the cold rain in the dark. Well done, mama.
.-= erin´s last blog ..Keeping Up =-.
So true! Hope you are having a better day today! :)
.-= Rana´s last blog ..Growing up! =-.
Glad you have recovered. We all have meltdowns. Have a sunny rest of the week and weekend!! Maybe I will see you at the Farmer’s Market Sat.
.-= Nicki´s last blog ..Palm Sunday =-.
I’m obviously behind on my blog reading….again. But I’m sending you some belated love anyway.
The beauty in life is the fact that it’s not always beautiful. It’s messy and emotional and flipping hard sometimes. But we move and flow through that and in comes something sweet and lovely and simple on the other side. (It’s impermanent, too and that’s okay.)
It’s inauthentic to be anything but human, even with all our sticky, imperfect, crazy, gorgeous, irrational, wise, connected, disconnected moments.
.-= ~Tara´s last blog ..Sustainable Housing at Ironwood Farm =-.
I’m sorry I missed the meltdown. Although I’ve had many of my own, so I can relate. I’m glad you’re feeling better.
And I agree with all of your lessons. But sometimes they’re hard to remember, all the same.
.-= Amber´s last blog ..The In-Between =-.
very insightful observations!!!
i’m so grateful that you are willing to share these kinds of real moments.
wishing you a restful weekend my friend…
~erin
.-= exhale. return to center.´s last blog ..breathing space :: pausing to prepare =-.
“Time and again I come back to the realization that the more time I give to the kids the more time they give me. Cutting down on quality time with the kids doesn’t get us anywhere.”
Boy – I cannot tell you how many times I have had to learn that lesson. People told me before I decided to stay home that if I took 15 minutes to get the kids engaged in an activity, they’d probably give me a half hour to get my own work done. Sometimes I remember that – but often I don’t. I’m trying to finish something and the kids are begging me for something, but instead of just stopping what I’m doing, I keep saying “one more minute, one more minute” which causes them to find the most dangerous/annoying/messy thing to get into, and then I get to take time away from my duties to sold that problem. I really HAVE GOT to remember to engage them first. My work can wait!
.-= TheFeministBreeder´s last blog ..TFB is Interviewed about Feminism & Social Media =-.